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The day I decided to stop shrinking myself

Short stories and honest notes on boundaries, ambition, and navigating people without burning out your own energy.

Updated: Feb 2025 · Writing about emotional maturity, leadership, and life as a tech woman.
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How I stopped apologizing for existing in rooms

A simple three-step script I use when people overstep, without turning it into a big drama or a silent grudge.

Quiet leadership in loud families

Notes from real conversations on staying calm, kind, and very clear when people test your boundaries again and again.

Designing a life that doesn’t drain you

A zoomed-out view of how I think about work, parenting, friendships, and rest — and what I’m still learning.